(Anybody any idea what the heart on the fence is about? Good, glad it's not just me.)
I think I first came across the quote in a film as a teenager, and it took me a long time to come to the realisation that it not only applied to other people, but to yourself also.
I often think (speaking as someone who was a neurotically
insecure teenager) that we’re our own worst enemies in this regard. Human
nature often dictates that out of one hundred experiences, we’ll ignore the
ninety-nine positives in favour of paying attention to the one negative one. I
definitely possessed an unparalleled ability to talk myself into believing this
sort of thing. It’s taken me until recent years to discover that I’m just as
capable of flipping the coin and arguing the other side of the issue.
Whilst you have the power to not let what other people say
affect you and make you feel inferior, you also have the power to stop yourself
perpetuating the problem. This certainly applies to the chronic illness
experience as I know I’ve been guilty of allowing myself to be convinced it’s
all my fault and spiralled downwards from there. However, I don’t allow myself
to do it any more.
Time we were a bit kinder to ourselves, I think.
Time we were a bit kinder to ourselves, I think.
Although I must admit in passing it's not my absolute favourite quote. That one is from A Knight's Tale, which as gleefully anachronistic historical comedy goes is hard to beat in my book. It makes no sense out of context, so you'll have to take my word for it that it's funny. Better still - go watch the film!
(Paul Bettany as Geoffrey Chaucer: The Lily Among the Thorns
Image from cinelstudio.com)
Image from cinelstudio.com)
"Yes I lied, I'm a writer - I give the truth scope!"
Hear Hear. A hard lesson learned by us all at some stage I'm sure.
ReplyDeleteCheers Lisa :-) x
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